Saturday, 15 August 2015

Masters, Mistresses and Dominants

{A true Master must first "submit" to their submissive before she grant him absolute control... by Kissra Lynnkay}

This article describes single, submissive women online-profiles who are seeking a Master, Mistress or Dom

I am writing this blog as an introduction for Masters, Mistresses and Dominants who wish to contact me. I am new to the fetish scene but I consider myself very experienced in the online sexual/porn stuff. Lots of people from all walks of life all over the globe contact me daily and a high percentage of them are “not” anonymous; i.e. I have their verified picture and detailed “factual” information about them. I am also aware that 95% of internet profiles are “fake” i.e. bisexual men, gays, transgenders pretending to be naturally born women parroting what “most” men believe what submissive women are like; hence resulting in many Masters/Doms parroting the same thing in their own online profiles and messages to women. I am also aware that most verified “naturally born women” who do have online profiles are doing it because of their guy influencing them into the life style i.e. all the fetish pictures and videos are all organized and shot by their guy and did not originate from the so called “submissive women” themselves!

I am mentioning the above points to ask every Masters, Mistresses and Dominants to re-think when they communicate with “submissive women”. In most cases [even with verified profiles] you are most likely chatting with her guy (pretending to be the female) who is into this fetish or he has some bi-sexual tendencies or men who love to share/degrade/expose their wives/girlfriends online or in real life!

Note: please do not confuse what I say above with models, cam girls, verified amateurs at porn sites, call-girls...etc. because they will cater to your believes; they are after money, hits and traffic or likes/thumbs up to their content. When I describe “naturally born women” I mean single and verified women (i.e. not influenced) who are horny/submissive and  “not” after marketing themselves or content online for promotional gain.

I also know that there are many guys who are brainwashed into believing whats being parroted online (by mainstream porn) about women sexuality and if you are one of them then what I say in this article will not make sense to you. Therefore I ask that you do not contact me and waste both our times. I am not interested in criticism be it constructive or otherwise, However, if you wish to discuss with me your views then I am open to it as long as you are not criticizing!

Little information about me: I am online because I enjoy it and I am not after marketing my self or content. I am “different” than most “verified naturally born women” online! I don't have a boyfriend or husband who takes my pictures because it turns him on or I am drawn into the lifestyle because of him! I do what I do because I am “verified naturally born woman” who is [single], [submissive] because I like to be controlled, sexual by nature and very [playful] but “not” in the way most men think about women!

If you are truly enlightened and not brainwashed with whats being parroted by fake profiles or profiles “influenced” by men then you will begin to understand what I mean by [“single, independent-in-thought, naturally born women, who are not influenced by her guy's sexual-likes”] then you will begin to recognize and distinguish our online profiles from the “manyfake or not so independent females out there!

I am submissive and I like the guy to take control and will submit to my Master, Mistress or Dominant once I find him/her! Until then I don't respond too positively to the many who are anonymous and parrot the same things that were enshrined by men or the mainstream-porn-industry! Read my fetish blogs before you contact me if you want me to take you seriously! If for whatever reason you can't comply with what I ask in terms of verification and learning about me prior to contacting me then I cannot submit and give myself to you!

Note: Do not confuse this article as me being dominant rather than submissive. Real submissive women will demand to prove and verify their potential Masters, Mistresses or Dominants before we submit to you!

And off course, there are exceptions to each rule! I am only describing the "majority" and not generalizing all



Friday, 20 March 2015

Google Hangout text chat and live cam

On my Google+ anyone is welcome to chat with me and follow my public posts. Add me to your circles and you will see when I'm online and you are welcome to come and text-chat with me on hangout. I chat with everyone.


Things to note when chatting with me
http://kissra.blogspot.ca/2015/04/things-to-note-when-chatting-with-me.html


Things to avoid ;)
http://kissra.blogspot.ca/2015/07/avoid-saying-similar-lines-to-below.html



The rules:
I am not into kidnapping, rape, pain (little tiny bitsi pain is OK :), underage play, incest, violence, gross stuff like period/tampon play, scat, barfing or anything disgusting. No illegal stuff, no bestiality. I will not chat with you if you tell me you are cheating on your wife or girlfriend! I don't use Google hangout for porn, go to porn sites if you are into that! I don't want to hear about your adventures with your under age kids (this is SICK!). Don't be an idiot! If you chat with me about illegal fantasies I will report you! And Google logs account IPs. This stuff should be common sense but its unbelievable the number of ignorant people on this planet; this is why I am putting this text here


How do you know when I am available for chat/cam?
This is a good question! Many people see when I get online and start chatting with me. However, they don't get a response and wonder why. If you see me online its because I am checking my emails or updating my Google+ profile. My hangout chat/cam is muted!
When I have free time for text-chat I post a “public” status update on my Google+ profile saying that I am on chat for anyone to join. It is at that time my hangout is not muted and I will see your chat requests and respond.

For cam, I will send a “private” status update seen only by my cam/verified circles and not the public.

Always put yourself in my shoes when you look at things. I have no less than a 100 men in my city where I live who sent me verified pix, want to meet me for coffee, they all horny, all sending me dick pix and all want to be in my close circle. That is a lot of people! It can be dangerous for me to share where specifically I go and at what times...etc. I don't do that for safety reasons and it will be a mess if every time I go somewhere I get idiots meeting me in coffee shops wanting to fuck or just being stupid. I can tolerate mistakes on chats but in real life it can be different! For this reason I don't do it. unless time passes and I get to know the person real well and build a profile in my head for them, if I get comfortable enough it might happen. I met very few people like that and I have a positive experience. However, I will never meet anyone for sex or because I am horny ...etc. for that I have close friends I trust for sexual stuff.

I am not looking for a boyfriend, husband or anything long term. I have very active lifestyle and I know lots of people from all walks of life. I am very playful and that's my nature but people always misinterpret that for me being horny or wanting a boyfriend or something like that. I can be a good friend and we can talk about anything but that's as far as it will get and only time might change that and nothing else! What I tell guys is to read my site and blogs but not what I post on social media; If you do, you will know how I think and some guys impressed me with that!

So you see if you tell me we can take it slow to get to know one another; I don't want to mislead or upset anyone; that's why I am writing this small novel :)

P.S. Important, I don't use Google hangout chats for porn. If you want to send me pictures do so by email. If you are horny and want a sexual chat go to porn sites. Don't be an idiot and start sending me nudes and talk pornographic on Google. Google is not a porn chat! However, If you do find me online on my porn accounts then go nuts!

Lastly, don't ask me to skype with you or web cam one on one. I do web cam once or twice a week when I have time. I am not a paid cam model so I don't care about entertaining you or camming with random people. I'm not interested to see how hot you look, I'm not into that shit. To see when I am on my cam you need to be added to my live cam circle. To join in read my site CriesOfTheGoth.com under webcam, I don't make exceptions!

Sunday, 8 March 2015

Dominant / Submissive type relationship from what I've learned thus far

I will write this article from my point of view and most of it, although can be applied to any D/s relationship, this article is mainly about me and my fascination with the D/s fetish. I will refer to the submissive as female and the dominant partner will be male

D/s relationship is like any other, it's give and take. A dominant male is not dominant if the submissive female is not willing to submit. In a way, the sub or female has more power since she controls the limits of the domination the male can have. A real Dom will know that a D/s relationship is based on the sub consent and on that note I characterize any D/s relationship as a power exchange relationship based on mutual consent. The key to any D/s relationship is “mutual consent”. Mutual consent forms the basis of any D/s relationship; without it you get idiots thinking a Sub must do everything a Dom asks for.

I just recently got introduced BDSM to my D/s experience and with it I introduced the element of pain and humiliation. Now, I am not foreign to the art of humiliation but the pain is new for me. Pain can be pleasurable and anyone not familiar with BDSM may not understand how that can be, but it can be when done with consent and moderation without exceeding ones limits.

Despite what Doms/Masters preach about helping pushing ones limits, I disagree and truly believe that limits must not be pushed! If the sub enjoys her activity and wishes to further her exploration then it will come from the sub and limits will be pushed on their own without any help/encouragements from Doms or Masters.

When I introduced BDSM into my D/s experience I learned that little pain is a positive and pleasurable thing to have in my experience. Just like any other regular (vanilla) relationship, there is no right or wrong way to do things as long as its consensual, happy, and safe!

From the sub viewpoint or more precisely my view point, a Dom-Master can bring balance, security, piece of mind and calmness to the Sub's life. This enables the sub to control her emotions and be happy, accepting and content

One thing to note is that being a Sub is not the same to being a slave. A sub will have hard and soft limits and they must be respected. Soft limits that can be flexible and hard limits that are an absolute NO! As a Dom-Master you must not bark orders without considering these limits.

The key to a successful D/s relationship is finding a partner with similar and close enough interests. If one has more extreme interests than the other, the relationship will be doomed to failure since the extreme partner will always be pushing the limits of the other; this will compromise the hard/soft limits I talked about earlier

I hope this article will shed light on my experience of D/s relationship. I will answer some of the questions I get about my sexual limits and likes. I like dirty sex, to be roughed up and I love pain as long as no blood, physical marks or heavy bruising involved; but being sore the next day from rough sex is pleasurable! I love deep-throat and gagging with tears and runny makeup, I like anal and my fave position is face down ass up ;)

My hard limits will include (but not limited to) scat or poop, that's disgusting!!! also barfing, blood play , tampon/period play (gross), licking toilets, floors or shoes (big YUK!) and anything gross or dirty especially men with poor hygiene
Lastly, I keep getting asked about the tattoo on my ass and I've must answered this question on every blog and people still ask me (really Kissra, that's what it means?)...YES it means slut or bitch...now U know ^_^

Valuable tip for guys about women!

Four out of five women do not like dick pictures; and the fifth one is a dude!

This blog is also for the nitwits who truly think I will drop everything I am doing, and die for the opportunity to have sex with them just because they have a penis; I hate those dumb fucktards!

Unless I get to know and like you in a non sexual way I will never fantasize about you sexually. If I get horny and as many of you put it “wet” lol (giggling) I will call up an old friend that I know real well and trust to play with; I never in my life had sex with a stranger! Ever! And that will never change! Ever!

Fucktardism: a human behavior where males with a penis absolutely believe that human females have nothing on their mind but sexual thoughts about large penises. This belief also extends to the notion that when a guy asks for sex that his request will not be declined.

Characteristic/behavior of someone exhibiting Fucktardism:
  • Sending brief vague anonymous messages to females asking for sex and expecting a positive answer
  • men stroking their dick on cam asking women to watch them thinking women love this shit
  • men having dick pictures as avatars and asking women to rate and comment on their dick pictures
  • men remaining anonymous because of their job/family thinking they are justified to be anonymous and women must respond positively and believe all the crap these men say
  • transgender, cross-dressers, gays and bi-men pretending to be females using their wife/girlfriend pix or even stolen pix from the internet to pretend they are women and talking to men and asking to see dicks and watching men stroke and cum on cam. These men who fall for that and believe they are talking to real natural born women are under the influence of Fucktardism! Real naturally born women DO NOT LIKE THIS SHIT!!! naturally born women do not want to see dick avatar, men stroking their dicks on cam, cumming on cam, rate or comment on your dick pictures and who ever like this shit is either web cam models after money, subscriptions, hits or they are not women! Regular girls (naturally born women) who are not after money, hits, subscriptions will not like this shit!!! unless the girl gets to know you over time!

One thing to mention about the last point is that I do ask some men to stroke for me on cam and to watch them cum...etc BUT only after I talk and got to know them, and like them and saw his verified pics and I liked that guy before I started to cam sexually with him. If I don't know you or you are anonymous (regardless of your reasons) I will never want to do that with you and any other naturally born women will think you are a creep!

Fucktardism justification from the fucktard point of view: I have a government job/family so I am not going to put any details on sex sites but I still expect to have sex and women should understand that I have a valid reason to be anon so lets meet up! If that's you, then you are a fucktard!

Men I love to cam sexually with and watch them cum to my vids/pix:
So who are these lucky people? Verified men! The ones that spend the most time with me and put up with my never ending bullshit and goofiness. I always initiate and almost never respond to horny guys in a positive way; especially to the ones that show me their dick. So there you have it. If you want to fool around with me virtually there are no rules or limits go all out and be as filthy as you like and I will reciprocate when in the mood. In the real world, you got to be a real gentleman and extremely patient and absolutely non sexual and only then I will get to like you as a friend! And if enough time passes until your dick falls off maybe I will have sex with you...in another lifetime... get it! ;)

(closeups, small/dark/low res, blurred faces or cropped head pictures are garbage!)
Important: I would LOVE to see men totally naked showing their dicks as long as I can see the face! Naturally born women LOVE THIS SHIT!!!! but no face no dice because any pix or vid without a face is lifeless! You can remain anonymous by emailing me your verified pix. If you are not willing that's OK but don't expect me to believe you are who you claim to be just because you say so ;)


Porn and censorship

People who hate porn and want it gone from the Internet and others who support it

Everyone knows I am an amateur goofball shooting adult content and posting it online; since I am not doing it for profit I do not consider myself part of the adult industry. I am also not religious and do not belong to the group representing this moral compass trying to sensor porn. Therefore, I can be somewhat neutral in looking at this issue; so here is my view

As a viewer reading this article written my me :) you also have to open your mind and look at the issue from a wider view...I'll explain!

If you look at any worldly event that made an impact you will notice its always few screwballs that have extreme views about something that make a big stink and create the so called “change” which supposedly represent what the majority of people want. I will call this phenomena as the “Limited Screwball Situation”. Limited because its always few extreme thinking people making the stink and pitching it as the rest of humanity think like that. Screwball...well that's what they are :) and Situation because that's what it is! Something that happened by way of being imposed

As an amateur non-profit porn goofball … i.e. me :) I get contacted by many white collar people who ask me to do “special requests” for them. These people are doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientists, rich people, military people, politicians and lots of them also religious people from all faiths. Any amateur pretty model can confirm this! These elite people compensate well and don't come with baggage! So from my perspective when I see the same people talking conservatively and yammering about banning porn I laugh.

Let me simplify! If we take corporation interests out of the equation and we let every person on the planet vote on the issue I can bet 80% of the planet will support porn and will not have issues with it (after-all 80% of Internet traffic is porn related), and about 10% will not have any opinion and the remainder 10% will genuinely oppose porn.

The majority of people who have issues with porn are hypocrites because they are the ones asking me to do requests for them and have to stay anonymous because of their families or jobs...etc. Anyone reading this article ask yourself this: Filter out the people who support porn, filter out the hypocrites who privately look at porn but publicly oppose it, filter out corporate interests then what you're left with is extreme minority who genuinely hate porn due to religious or cultural views and these are the cause of what I call the Limited Screwball Situation...after all ask yourself this: if you're reading this article you must have been looking at porn because my blog is not an adult safe blog ;)

So for those few screwballs who do not want to see porn on the Internet do not force the majority to be like you and instead you can regulate yourselves not to watch it and its easier done than said! Here is how:
  1. Set your search engine bing, Google.... and set safety filter to strict! 
  2. Install one of the many free Net Nanny type software on your PC
and that's it!!! try it, and you will never see porn! I tried it! Its a 100% solution!

This solution however, is a filtering solution and not a preventive solution! It will not prevent you from looking at porn if you seek it. It will effectively filter out porn and you will not see anything related to porn but it will not prevent you from seeking porn if you intentionally look for it! So if you want a solution to filter and prevent then the real issue is not porn but a fundamental problem that resides within you!

It is in my opinion, that as humans we must recognize our sexual needs and have the freedom to display them our way. We should be independent when it comes to showcasing our sexual uniqueness, and have the freedom to enjoy consensual sexual expression without societal or governmental interference, coercion or stigmatization. This has to be a fundamental human right for all individuals to develop and express! After-all, human sexuality is a natural behavior and I think it should be nurtured and not suppressed!


Thursday, 19 February 2015

Adult social media sites review for amateur models

OK, I got few emails from new female models asking me of my preferred adult media site so I decided to write this blog.

As many of you know I've been doing adult oriented videos online for a while now and I've tried different adult social media sites. The ones that made my list were Xhamster.com, Xvideos.com and Porhub.com; so I will compare those three from my experience thus far

One thing to note is that adult entertainment or lets call it for what it is “porn” is not my career. I am not a professional porn star..i.e. I am not doing it for money or to get subscribers, likes or hits...etc. I consider myself a playful amateur goofing around and making videos for fun and nothing more. So, on that note here is in-my-opinion review of what I think is the best adult social media site:

This review assumes you are a female amateur model and part of the “Verified Amateur Program” which all three sites mentioned above have.

I will base my review on 4 points and compare them to each site (xhamster, xvideos and pornhub):
  1. Traffic or hits your videos and picture albums can receive
  2. General attitude of the community and their engagement on your videos and pictures
  3. Social interaction tools to let you interact with the community on each of these sites like messaging/live chat/cam
  4. The type of content each of the sites promote or focus on the most

1- Traffic:
In terms of traffic they are all the same. However, for me Xhamster gives me a little bit more quality hits than Pornhub and Xvideos. But the difference is really not that much between the three

2- Community attitude:
Xhamster is a clear winner here!
  • Xhamster gives my videos a lot more comments than Pornhub and Xvideos.
  • Also Xhamster community is super friendly. All the comments I get are so sweet, complimenting and encouraging which motivates the model to shoot more content
  • In terms of like/dislike ratio Pornhub is the worst. The pornhub community are more inclined to dislike your videos if its not professionally filmed. For-example, a video on Xhamster gets 95 likes and say 5 dislikes while on pornhub the same video gets only 65 likes and 35 dislikes. Its like the community on pornhub are more inclined towards professional videos than amateur ones. Xvideos in comparison is in between Xhamster and Pornhub; same content on Xvideos gets 80 likes and 20 dislikes so its slightly better than pornhub

3- Social interaction tools:
Pornhub and Xhamster are more or less the same. I like pornhub wall post feature better than Xhamster because it lets me pin a post and also allows me to format the text and include links which I like a lot. However, Xhamster lets you write blogs and allows users to comment and interact. Xvideos in my opinion is adult media hosting site and not a social media site

4- Content type each site focuses on:
You can find all types of content on all three sites. If you like to view content then they are all equal! However, if you are a model uploading your own amateur content then you will notice a difference in your overall experience.

Xhamster content covers all spectrums, the professional and amateur equally. Xhamster videos are more sensual and more inclined towards tasteful non fetishy videos and definitely nothing gross like scat or pee...etc. As an amateur model uploading your own content, Xhamster will give you this positive feeling. You will see the number of views on your content sky rocket, the likes and the overwhelming positive comments on your videos will give you a positive encouraging feeling.

Pornhub content focus's more on the professional porn star type videos and ranges from the tasteful to full blown fetish ones but lacks in the amateur department; at least that's the feeling I get. The pornhub community will tend to rate your content more harshly. The feeling I get is that pornhub audience feels they are entitled while Xhamster audience is privileged to see whatever you upload. Your content will get about 65% positive feedback on Pornhub in comparison to Xhamster

Xvideos is more neutral in terms of overall content feedback. You will get people who appreciate your content and others who don't. I would say about 80% of the feedback is positive on Xvideos

In conclusion, Xhamster is my preferred choice because I feel appreciated and I just get the general feeling that the Xhamster community feels privileged to see my videos. Another positive point is Xhamster site is cleaner, very well laid out, easy to navigate and not cluttered. Xhamster works well if you got ad blockers while Pornhub will not let you login or navigate with ad blocker running on your browser

This is my review and personal opinion, I am sure different people will have varying opinions nevertheless that's what I think.

Avoid doing the following things if your goal is to get me to answer you


  • No matter what it is you are asking, if you want me to answer you then you must email it to me. I only respond to email messages that are detailed and nothing else.
       
  • Do not ask me questions by commenting on my social media postings or blogs. This is just plain stupid! Comments on my postings should be related to that post. Lets just keep the comments on the posts relevant

  • Read my site and blogs to get to know me. Remember, if you want me to get back to you I need to be interested in you and by reading my site and blogs you will know how I think and what I like and dislike so you can formulate your message in a way to make it interesting for me to answer you. I am not a doing this for money so I have no interest in talking to people at random or to waste time answering general questions. I put up my web site so I don't have to answer repetitive questions. 

  • Keep in mind I allow anyone to use my content anyway they like so if you see me somewhere online it does not mean it's me interacting with you. I list all my online profiles on my site. If its not on my site then you weren't chatting with me ;)

  • My online videos and social media postings are just fantasies I play-out online. Its just stupid fun or a moment fling and nothing more; I do not do that in my real life! If you want to know the real me, read my site and blogs and never base it on my social media profiles be it family-oriented Facebook or pornographic PornHub...etc. The real me is on my web site and blogs and nowhere else!

  • And Please do not write ALL IN CAP LETTERS ITS JUST HARD TO READ AND SUPER ANNOYING!!!!

  • Don't email me when you are drunk or using one hand to write because you are masturbating or whatever the heck your reason is; believe me I heard it all lol. Check your spelling and grammar. If you type like a 2 year old rest assured I will ignore your message ;) 
  • Don't send me dick pictures or videos unless you send a photo/video with your face and holding a paper with my name, date on it. If you do send just a dick picture you will be an idiot because that's exactly what I will think of you.
Hope this shed some light on the many messages I keep getting everywhere and why I am not answering “the many” some of you :)

Saturday, 31 January 2015

Empathy, it is your absolute net worth!

Sometimes we take life for granted and forget about all those who are hurting and have it bad in this life. I haven't figured out everything about how life works but for those of you who are suffering from whatever is hurting you remember this: life is what you make it to be, bad things and feelings happen when you are surrounded by negativity either from people, media or whatever else it could be. Slowly detach from the bad and get closer to the positive and happy... we are all equal and important without exception and regardless of our physical looks or abilities...our true beauty lies in the mind and heart so remember that we are all equally beautiful...it is not always people can see that.

And to answer an anonymous message I got, I talk to all people regardless of background, color, shape age or whatever else society made us believe to be...if you can't understand that then I feel sorry for you and I follow what I preach so I move away from people with racist thoughts. As to what I find attractive, its your mind I look for, how positive and how you live your life is what appeals to me and not how you look or what you possess.

Lastly, about the single thing that will impress me the most, I'd have to say empathy.... I will judge you by your empathy and how much of it you posses because its the direct link to your humanity...the less empathy you have the less value you are to me. I will also add to this the biggest thing I hate in people would be hypocrisy! People who are too afraid to defend the right and stay silent or “neutral” when witnessing wrong. If you can't stand up for what you believe in then you are worth nothing to me!

Hope that answer your question anon


Writing by IsisVibes

Tuesday, 27 January 2015

How to get women to like you on social networks

OK, so you are one of those creepy guys who want something pretty to play with your doodle

So you've opened an adult account on some porn social network and posted a bunch of photos of your dick, maybe a face photo to show off your goatee and black eye make-up (after all evil looking faces taken by the cam on your laptop are ever so mysterious). Then you steel some bunch of photos from the internet and post them in your profile with captions like "Yeah slut, that's how you'll take my cock you worthless piece of shit". Then you fail to fill out absolutely anything about yourself in your profile or you'll make unbelievably bullshit claims about how great in bed you are. At this point you start getting ready to start harassing every single woman on the social network who happens to make your dick twitch.

Ok; so if you are one of these guys, you may be wondering why your flawless plan isn't working. Well, put simply, it's because woman aren't complete fucking retards.... Inconvenient, I know!

But fear not. For all hope is not lost. It is possible to find success with members of the female population of the social network. So what is the secret; I hear you ask? Well read my blog topics about women to stop having girls throwing their virtual drinks in your virtual face.

Treat women like real people
It's crazy I know. But it's actually true. Scientific studies have shown that women are people too! That's right my friend; So do yourself a favor and stop treating them like idiots that will fall for your Jedi mind tricks.

Women generally have a different value system
What I mean by this is that they are motivated differently and will react differently to things than you would. Imagine if a woman was to flash a man in a park? It would most likely result in a pretty happy man, right? Now imagine if a man was to flash a woman in a park? It would probably result in police being called and charges being laid.
Whereas a guy will fantasize about a woman walking up to them in a bar and begging to suck his cock, a girl will want an actual adult conversation and a genuine connection before she wants to proposition sexual activities.

Women want a real guy
That means you need to make your profile real. You're allowed to have flaws. Unlike most "boys"; women don't demand perfection. Sure they love to look at Ryan Gosling, but they don't mind if that's not how you look. They just want to see that you take enough pride in yourself that they can too. They want to know that you'll put effort into yourself; after all, if you won't put effort into yourself, then how are you going to put effort into them.

You're not entitled to anything, so don't expect anything
Just because a female is nice to you, doesn't mean she owes you anything. Just because she talks to you and you feel attracted to her, doesn't mean she is yours. Just because you both feel a sexual attraction, doesn't mean she is obliged to do anything with you.
Whatever happens, happens. Just be grateful for whatever life brings you and treat her with respect. Before, during, and after.

Writing by Master James

Friday, 16 January 2015

Before you ask to meet with me

NOTE: this blog for those who are looking for a wife/girlfriend, a fuck buddy, a one night stand, web cam sex or fetish play

First and foremost, read my web site CriesOfTheGoth.com before you contact me!

I am an amateur adult entertainer and this is not a paid business for me. I do this purely for fun! I have my own terms that are not business oriented and definitely I am not like other women you find online who are trying to get hits, subscriptions or get you to pay.

The Internet is full of creeps and anyone can claim to be anything therefore for that reason alone anonymous people are ignored by default and when I say ignored I mean you will not even get a response back.

You can be anonymous and still interact with me by commenting on my pix and I generally will comment back (harmless stupid fun); but, don't let that fool you into believing we can be life long buddies. I get 100's of messages, comments ...etc per day and from my perspective they are all the same. I distinguish the nice people from the trolls and I tend to comment back to the people I like most but that's about it; cam sessions, meeting for coffee, fetish play, sex or asking for my phone number...etc this is out of your league anonymous people. Read my blog to know what I consider verified people, even with them I have many friends and it's  hard to talk to all of them due to the sheer number, but we interact on a different level than with anonymous people.

I get online on my cam few times a month when I am bored and have the time. I use hangout and cam with a verified-group! We chat and laugh (non sexual just stupid jokes and fun) nothing more. No attachments, no expectations, ….etc. To put it in a perfect example imagine you go for coffee with a group of coworkers. A mix of women and men, married, with kids, single people...you don't know, you are just there for a coffee break nothing more.

Also it's important to note and I can't stress this enough, I hear all the time guys telling me how hot they are and how huge their dick is and they are experts in pleasing women, they are rich, body builders...bla bla bla bla I hate all that shit like you can't even imagine!

You want to be on my good side and get a chance to be a good friend then here is what I like to see from you:
  • If you chose to be anonymous  then just have fun following me and comment on my social media. Be respectful of what you say and where. Don't be stupid and leave sexual comments on Facebook or non adult social media. You can reserve these comments for my adult profiles
  • if you chose to be verified don't expect much. You will only see more of my activity that I share with my verified friends
  • If you want to make me happy and notice you then buy me something from my wish list. I don't need money donations I would appreciate a more thoughtful gift and it doesn't have to be expensive. Buy me sexy heels or slutty dress, bracelets, gift certificate for makeup things like that! Surprise me I love surprises
  • If you choose to get me something just do it. Don't spoil it by asking me what I like or prefer. It's the thought that counts!
  • if you are verified and get on my good side because you are nice in general and you bought me gifts...etc and I get to like you; I will add you to my close friends circle and that means you will see my phone number and when I am online, I will talk to you by email or chat and you will be like a good coworker friend that I got to know more than others. This will not by any means make me want to have sex with you or do fetish play or get married or go steady like boyfriend/girlfriend or meet you for coffee...etc.

Do not miss interpret my intentions of what I say and what I post online! I am naughty by nature and I have very open minded views. This in no way means I am horny and like to act up on what I post online or say on cam when we are having drunk-stupid-fun. If horny sluts that fuck anything that moves is what you are seeking then move along and save your time because you will be very disappointed with me!

This blog is for those who message me novels and send me unverified pictures of themselves asking to meet up for coffee or talk on the phone. I'd say get in line boy, you are number 5 trillion in my spam filter scheduled for automatic deletion by Google in 30 days.

Online fun can be just that, harmless stupid fun where we can come out of our shell, act up on some dumb fantasies, be ourselves without judgment and wind down and escape to a fantasy world before going back to stupid reality again.

By now if you read my blogs and personal web site you will know I am not shy, have zero fear from being embarrassed and I don't get offended from any kind of comments/messages I get. However, I do judge your intelligence and thoughtfulness based on what you comment and where you post it!

Hope this blog sheds some light on the subject for those looking for a wife, a fuck buddy, a one night stand, web cam sex or fetish play, meeting up...etc. I don't do that! And when I do, I have specific people I know real well and trust, to do it with!!!

Sunday, 4 January 2015

More about me

First let me say a BIG THANK YOU to all your sweet messages and beautiful comments you keep sending me. Due to the sheer volume I am not able to answer all of them so for that reason I am writing this blog.

My location: Well I am in Canada. More specifically I constantly travel between Calgary and Vancouver.

My music: I listen to just about anything and when I say anything I mean anything. It all depends on my mood. But mostly I love Melodic Trance.

My Religion: I don't believe in indoctrinated blind faith traditions and religions that brought nothing but war hate and misery through out history on man kind. I really have major problems with preachers who use fear and ask for blind faith to make me follow a doctrine with rewards after you die...these are the traits of a con artist for control

My paid services and web sites: I DO NOT have a paid site! Yes I do this for pure fun and not money. Although some guys paid me for special requests outside from what I do and I also get paid frequently from guys to cam with them for special fetishes and others who buy my panties among other things but these are purely special requests and I don't really advertise them.

Fucking guys and gang bangs: Although I have pix showing what might look like gang bangs and I have blogs talking about being a bimbo fuck toy...these are all fantasies and I do not act up on them in real life. Why? Because it will not be responsible! There are so many STD's out there and although I “act” stupid and whorish, its all an online fantasy act and not real ^_^

Bimbofication if I will go ahead with it? Yes! I will....BUT let me explain!
I have my own definition of being a bimbo that is different from the parroted definition online. My definition of bimbo is big tits (not too huge that it looks stupid but big enough to look fake) with slutty tight revealing cloths and high heels. Acting stupid and laughing about everything and being horny all the time to fuck your guys brains out and being treated like a total whore/fuck toy by your man ^_^

What else did I get asked in your messages to me...oh yeah, you wanted to know if I like anal sex and deep throat..well D'aaaa, I love anal sex and love to deep throat with tears and runny makeup... I also like rough sex and dirty talking, spanking and light slapping but nothing that will cause real harm or make me bleed/heavy bruising...but being sore from rough sex is pleasurable!

If there are any other questions you'd like me answer ask me and I will put it here on this blog ;)

Friday, 2 January 2015

Sexual humiliation and degradation

My definition of humiliation and sexual degradation:
  • Pissing on the girl face hair and body including mouth
  • Cumming on her face
  • Fisting and making her pose in a provocative way
  • Her face with runny makeup
  • Slutty degrading comments written on her body
  • Calling her slutty and trashy names like whore, prostitute, slag, cum dumpster and anything sexual in nature
  • Posting slut ID's of her on the net with links and her info to expose her as a slut...etc. (not to post info like her personal address or anything that can be used for fraud or to compromise her personal safety!)
  • Calling me dumb or stupid in front of your friends and talking to me in derogatory way (as long as sexually related) and projecting me as a whore good for one thing ... is a turn on!
What I do not consider degrading or humiliating:
  • Calling her names such as ugly, old..etc. basically non sexual insults and making fun of her physical appearance
  • Being gross like scat, barf or filthy not clean activities like licking floors or sitting with pigs in the mud...this is not sexual and just gross
  • Hate or racist comments
  • Making fun of her and her features
  • Making resemblance of her and a pig or putting pig snout on her and telling her to oink..etc. I fail to see how its related to sexual humiliation. I don't mind it because its not gross but it does nothing for me from the sexual-humiliation aspect
This to me is not humiliation; its you being ignorant, hateful and disrespectful. You will be on my black list and I will look down on you
If you like to see examples of sexual humiliation then look into my pictures on my personal site and you will see some creative examples ;)

Masters

My fascination in the humiliation and D/s fetish

For the purpose of this writings I will term the guy as Master and the slave as sub!
All your life you live by society rules and whats acceptable is termed by society as norm. If everyone walks naked then voyeurism will not exist since there will be nothing stimulating about public flashing and nudity. The humiliation fetish is no different!

It is always sweet when people pay you compliments and everyone loves to be accepted and liked this is a natural human behavior; and keeping that in mind while living the fetish life that is different from the norm can be sexually stimulating.

Being complimented and liked while treated like a dumb whore is sexually stimulating for me and lots of other women. I like to have big tits and dress slutty and have guys look at me in a sexual way and fuck me like a hooker while at the same time I am still attractive and cute to the men who like to use me sexually. Keep in mind this is just a sexual fantasy and I don't want to do that in real life; read on!

Guys who will encourage the sub and steer her to the whore lifestyle and do it so it becomes permanent and not a fling for the moment are the true Masters!

Being a Master who owns a sub or slave is a delicate art! You as a Master need to understand precisely what is it the sub likes to experience and her limits; you then must never cross those limits or try to push them or expand them, and that is key! Because when the sub is ready to expand her experience it will happen without your help!!! On the other hand, you will get your obedient sub satisfying your desires and letting you abuse her within her boundaries and the excitement becomes mutual.

Due to the unbelievable number of ignorant morons out there with their idiotic generalization of Master/Dom and sub/slave fetish; I have devised my own methods on the D/s relationship:
But, before we continue I need to tell anyone reading this document that I tried to find naturally born women being sub/slaves so I can learn about the fetish; however, I was not able to find such profiles. Therefore it is in my opinion that all anonymous profiles on the Internet I consider fake profiles and the majority of them are men/gays/bi-men/cross-dressers/transsexuals pretending to be naturally born women and portraying themselves as whores and willing to do anything the Master asks.
NOTE: I have nothing against gays, trans..etc. read here what I say
So back to my devised methods on Master / sub relationship:
  • A Master have to understand his potential sub specific requirement and needs and boundaries
  • A Master cannot expect the sub to drop her life and move to different location or do things outside her normal daily life just because the Master/Dom said so. This have to be done with in time to build trust
  • As a Master you need to consider financial impact on the sub so if you need her to do something that will cost then be prepared to shell out otherwise don't ask things you are not willing to pay for because the sub is not willing either!
  • Not every sub like to fuck a million guys. I for example like to be shown off to many people and displayed naked and in compromising poses ...etc but I will only sleep, fuck and suck my Master only and no one else (different girls do different things and that's just not me)
  • Everyone got different needs and requirement based on their current lifestyle. If you need to remain anonymous I understand but that's not what most subs looking for. I for example want to see who I am talking to if we were to engage in something more serious than just some Internet fling. A sub would want to see a verified picture and phone number they can call...etc. If you are married or can't show your face...etc then move along because that's not what most subs looking for unless its agreed by all within the relationship!

A proper Master online profile and what a sub looks for when looking for a Master/Dom:
    I am yet to find a proper Master/Dom online profile! Most online profiles of so called Masters/Doms weather be it on Fetlife or elsewhere on the internet, all are monotone and tells nothing about the person calling himself a Master/Dom who seeks total submission from a sub/slave. Let me explain!

    When I look for a Dom I look for someone who tells me about himself as a person living in the real world and not how he describe himself as a Dom. Everyone behind a keyboard can make himself look ideal! First I want to know who are you as a person and if that goes well then we can move along to who you are as a Dom! Still confused? I will explain further :)

    Here is what a sub like me and I presume any other woman who is serious about D/s (i.e. not fake) would look for:

    • Your age
    • Where do you live (city/state/country)
    • What do you do for a living
    • Where do you live? Apartment or house? Renting/mortgage or fully paid and owned? 
    • Do you have a car and valid drivers license or not
    • Do you have debts and how would you describe your credit
    • Are you married/divorced/separated and do you have children and if so are they living with you and how old..etc
    • Are you looking for a sub to move in with you or just remote relationship?

    The above points are example of the things a sub would like to know and by the above "core" information you will describe yourself as a person! Basically who are you as a man? You can also remain anonymous at this stage and that's fine!

    In my opinion if a Dom is serious about having a sub leave her existing life and give total submission to a Master/Dom then the sub would like to know if the Dom would be capable of handling the new responsibility and not just blabbing away like most wannabees out there!

    Do not confuse this with the sub wanting a husband! The D/s relationship is more demanding than most marriages and the above core information (at least from my perspective) is a must! It is only after passing this stage we can move along to who you are as a Dom and what I can offer as a sub!

    If you, a Master/Dom starts out in your online profile describing how you are as a Dom before providing core information about you as a person living in the real world is like feeling horny and want a quick fix. I am not surprised when I hear of Doms complaining about not wanting to waste their time with fake subs. I tell these guys fix your profile so you attract the real ones ;)

    A foot note if you will from what I have learned thus far:
    Most Masters/Doms out there who have a sub/slave were already in an existing relationships. What I mean is most Doms made their existing girlfriends or wives subs and slaves. I am yet to find a Master/Dom who says they are experienced and actually found subs/slaves who did not know them before and started the D/s relationship from the start and that their relationship lasted more than a year! Just keep this in mind if you are a sub new to the D/s like me and reading the profile of an experienced Master/Dom ;)
    Also, here are more info based on my experience thus far in the D/s relationships 


    The following readings are key to know if you wish to talk to me on a serious note:
    Lastly a sub lives by example, so if you find a naturally born women who is a sub/whore and you like your potential sub to do what she is doing I will recommend you find a verified profile!  Please read this to know what I consider verified naturally born women profiles so you don't send me what I consider a fake/anonymous profile. I love to expand my sexuality and feel free to talk to me about your experiences.

    I will keep expanding this document to include new things as I progress in my life with this new fetish ;)

    My views ;)

    I am putting this because I got asked a lot about my views on bi-sexual men, transgender and gays and I have nothing against them. I myself is bisexual and I have few gay friends. In my opinion gay men are a bit more sensitive and nicer than most guys. I do not have transgender friends but I use to know couple of transgender friends a while back when I use to live in Winnipeg and my general experience was OK. And off course I know lotsa bi chikas and I LUV dem all :)

    Now, the thing to note about gays, trans ...etc is that on the sexual level is not what i am seeking. SO if you are gay or trans..etc don't be afraid to talk to me (non sexual) because we can be friends ;)

    Hope this clears it for some of ya ^_^