Saturday, 31 January 2015

Empathy, it is your absolute net worth!

Sometimes we take life for granted and forget about all those who are hurting and have it bad in this life. I haven't figured out everything about how life works but for those of you who are suffering from whatever is hurting you remember this: life is what you make it to be, bad things and feelings happen when you are surrounded by negativity either from people, media or whatever else it could be. Slowly detach from the bad and get closer to the positive and happy... we are all equal and important without exception and regardless of our physical looks or abilities...our true beauty lies in the mind and heart so remember that we are all equally beautiful...it is not always people can see that.

And to answer an anonymous message I got, I talk to all people regardless of background, color, shape age or whatever else society made us believe to be...if you can't understand that then I feel sorry for you and I follow what I preach so I move away from people with racist thoughts. As to what I find attractive, its your mind I look for, how positive and how you live your life is what appeals to me and not how you look or what you possess.

Lastly, about the single thing that will impress me the most, I'd have to say empathy.... I will judge you by your empathy and how much of it you posses because its the direct link to your humanity...the less empathy you have the less value you are to me. I will also add to this the biggest thing I hate in people would be hypocrisy! People who are too afraid to defend the right and stay silent or “neutral” when witnessing wrong. If you can't stand up for what you believe in then you are worth nothing to me!

Hope that answer your question anon


Writing by IsisVibes

Tuesday, 27 January 2015

How to get women to like you on social networks

OK, so you are one of those creepy guys who want something pretty to play with your doodle

So you've opened an adult account on some porn social network and posted a bunch of photos of your dick, maybe a face photo to show off your goatee and black eye make-up (after all evil looking faces taken by the cam on your laptop are ever so mysterious). Then you steel some bunch of photos from the internet and post them in your profile with captions like "Yeah slut, that's how you'll take my cock you worthless piece of shit". Then you fail to fill out absolutely anything about yourself in your profile or you'll make unbelievably bullshit claims about how great in bed you are. At this point you start getting ready to start harassing every single woman on the social network who happens to make your dick twitch.

Ok; so if you are one of these guys, you may be wondering why your flawless plan isn't working. Well, put simply, it's because woman aren't complete fucking retards.... Inconvenient, I know!

But fear not. For all hope is not lost. It is possible to find success with members of the female population of the social network. So what is the secret; I hear you ask? Well read my blog topics about women to stop having girls throwing their virtual drinks in your virtual face.

Treat women like real people
It's crazy I know. But it's actually true. Scientific studies have shown that women are people too! That's right my friend; So do yourself a favor and stop treating them like idiots that will fall for your Jedi mind tricks.

Women generally have a different value system
What I mean by this is that they are motivated differently and will react differently to things than you would. Imagine if a woman was to flash a man in a park? It would most likely result in a pretty happy man, right? Now imagine if a man was to flash a woman in a park? It would probably result in police being called and charges being laid.
Whereas a guy will fantasize about a woman walking up to them in a bar and begging to suck his cock, a girl will want an actual adult conversation and a genuine connection before she wants to proposition sexual activities.

Women want a real guy
That means you need to make your profile real. You're allowed to have flaws. Unlike most "boys"; women don't demand perfection. Sure they love to look at Ryan Gosling, but they don't mind if that's not how you look. They just want to see that you take enough pride in yourself that they can too. They want to know that you'll put effort into yourself; after all, if you won't put effort into yourself, then how are you going to put effort into them.

You're not entitled to anything, so don't expect anything
Just because a female is nice to you, doesn't mean she owes you anything. Just because she talks to you and you feel attracted to her, doesn't mean she is yours. Just because you both feel a sexual attraction, doesn't mean she is obliged to do anything with you.
Whatever happens, happens. Just be grateful for whatever life brings you and treat her with respect. Before, during, and after.

Writing by Master James

Friday, 16 January 2015

Before you ask to meet with me

NOTE: this blog for those who are looking for a wife/girlfriend, a fuck buddy, a one night stand, web cam sex or fetish play

First and foremost, read my web site CriesOfTheGoth.com before you contact me!

I am an amateur adult entertainer and this is not a paid business for me. I do this purely for fun! I have my own terms that are not business oriented and definitely I am not like other women you find online who are trying to get hits, subscriptions or get you to pay.

The Internet is full of creeps and anyone can claim to be anything therefore for that reason alone anonymous people are ignored by default and when I say ignored I mean you will not even get a response back.

You can be anonymous and still interact with me by commenting on my pix and I generally will comment back (harmless stupid fun); but, don't let that fool you into believing we can be life long buddies. I get 100's of messages, comments ...etc per day and from my perspective they are all the same. I distinguish the nice people from the trolls and I tend to comment back to the people I like most but that's about it; cam sessions, meeting for coffee, fetish play, sex or asking for my phone number...etc this is out of your league anonymous people. Read my blog to know what I consider verified people, even with them I have many friends and it's  hard to talk to all of them due to the sheer number, but we interact on a different level than with anonymous people.

I get online on my cam few times a month when I am bored and have the time. I use hangout and cam with a verified-group! We chat and laugh (non sexual just stupid jokes and fun) nothing more. No attachments, no expectations, ….etc. To put it in a perfect example imagine you go for coffee with a group of coworkers. A mix of women and men, married, with kids, single people...you don't know, you are just there for a coffee break nothing more.

Also it's important to note and I can't stress this enough, I hear all the time guys telling me how hot they are and how huge their dick is and they are experts in pleasing women, they are rich, body builders...bla bla bla bla I hate all that shit like you can't even imagine!

You want to be on my good side and get a chance to be a good friend then here is what I like to see from you:
  • If you chose to be anonymous  then just have fun following me and comment on my social media. Be respectful of what you say and where. Don't be stupid and leave sexual comments on Facebook or non adult social media. You can reserve these comments for my adult profiles
  • if you chose to be verified don't expect much. You will only see more of my activity that I share with my verified friends
  • If you want to make me happy and notice you then buy me something from my wish list. I don't need money donations I would appreciate a more thoughtful gift and it doesn't have to be expensive. Buy me sexy heels or slutty dress, bracelets, gift certificate for makeup things like that! Surprise me I love surprises
  • If you choose to get me something just do it. Don't spoil it by asking me what I like or prefer. It's the thought that counts!
  • if you are verified and get on my good side because you are nice in general and you bought me gifts...etc and I get to like you; I will add you to my close friends circle and that means you will see my phone number and when I am online, I will talk to you by email or chat and you will be like a good coworker friend that I got to know more than others. This will not by any means make me want to have sex with you or do fetish play or get married or go steady like boyfriend/girlfriend or meet you for coffee...etc.

Do not miss interpret my intentions of what I say and what I post online! I am naughty by nature and I have very open minded views. This in no way means I am horny and like to act up on what I post online or say on cam when we are having drunk-stupid-fun. If horny sluts that fuck anything that moves is what you are seeking then move along and save your time because you will be very disappointed with me!

This blog is for those who message me novels and send me unverified pictures of themselves asking to meet up for coffee or talk on the phone. I'd say get in line boy, you are number 5 trillion in my spam filter scheduled for automatic deletion by Google in 30 days.

Online fun can be just that, harmless stupid fun where we can come out of our shell, act up on some dumb fantasies, be ourselves without judgment and wind down and escape to a fantasy world before going back to stupid reality again.

By now if you read my blogs and personal web site you will know I am not shy, have zero fear from being embarrassed and I don't get offended from any kind of comments/messages I get. However, I do judge your intelligence and thoughtfulness based on what you comment and where you post it!

Hope this blog sheds some light on the subject for those looking for a wife, a fuck buddy, a one night stand, web cam sex or fetish play, meeting up...etc. I don't do that! And when I do, I have specific people I know real well and trust, to do it with!!!

Sunday, 4 January 2015

More about me

First let me say a BIG THANK YOU to all your sweet messages and beautiful comments you keep sending me. Due to the sheer volume I am not able to answer all of them so for that reason I am writing this blog.

My location: Well I am in Canada. More specifically I constantly travel between Calgary and Vancouver.

My music: I listen to just about anything and when I say anything I mean anything. It all depends on my mood. But mostly I love Melodic Trance.

My Religion: I don't believe in indoctrinated blind faith traditions and religions that brought nothing but war hate and misery through out history on man kind. I really have major problems with preachers who use fear and ask for blind faith to make me follow a doctrine with rewards after you die...these are the traits of a con artist for control

My paid services and web sites: I DO NOT have a paid site! Yes I do this for pure fun and not money. Although some guys paid me for special requests outside from what I do and I also get paid frequently from guys to cam with them for special fetishes and others who buy my panties among other things but these are purely special requests and I don't really advertise them.

Fucking guys and gang bangs: Although I have pix showing what might look like gang bangs and I have blogs talking about being a bimbo fuck toy...these are all fantasies and I do not act up on them in real life. Why? Because it will not be responsible! There are so many STD's out there and although I “act” stupid and whorish, its all an online fantasy act and not real ^_^

Bimbofication if I will go ahead with it? Yes! I will....BUT let me explain!
I have my own definition of being a bimbo that is different from the parroted definition online. My definition of bimbo is big tits (not too huge that it looks stupid but big enough to look fake) with slutty tight revealing cloths and high heels. Acting stupid and laughing about everything and being horny all the time to fuck your guys brains out and being treated like a total whore/fuck toy by your man ^_^

What else did I get asked in your messages to me...oh yeah, you wanted to know if I like anal sex and deep throat..well D'aaaa, I love anal sex and love to deep throat with tears and runny makeup... I also like rough sex and dirty talking, spanking and light slapping but nothing that will cause real harm or make me bleed/heavy bruising...but being sore from rough sex is pleasurable!

If there are any other questions you'd like me answer ask me and I will put it here on this blog ;)

Friday, 2 January 2015

Sexual humiliation and degradation

My definition of humiliation and sexual degradation:
  • Pissing on the girl face hair and body including mouth
  • Cumming on her face
  • Fisting and making her pose in a provocative way
  • Her face with runny makeup
  • Slutty degrading comments written on her body
  • Calling her slutty and trashy names like whore, prostitute, slag, cum dumpster and anything sexual in nature
  • Posting slut ID's of her on the net with links and her info to expose her as a slut...etc. (not to post info like her personal address or anything that can be used for fraud or to compromise her personal safety!)
  • Calling me dumb or stupid in front of your friends and talking to me in derogatory way (as long as sexually related) and projecting me as a whore good for one thing ... is a turn on!
What I do not consider degrading or humiliating:
  • Calling her names such as ugly, old..etc. basically non sexual insults and making fun of her physical appearance
  • Being gross like scat, barf or filthy not clean activities like licking floors or sitting with pigs in the mud...this is not sexual and just gross
  • Hate or racist comments
  • Making fun of her and her features
  • Making resemblance of her and a pig or putting pig snout on her and telling her to oink..etc. I fail to see how its related to sexual humiliation. I don't mind it because its not gross but it does nothing for me from the sexual-humiliation aspect
This to me is not humiliation; its you being ignorant, hateful and disrespectful. You will be on my black list and I will look down on you
If you like to see examples of sexual humiliation then look into my pictures on my personal site and you will see some creative examples ;)

Masters

My fascination in the humiliation and D/s fetish

For the purpose of this writings I will term the guy as Master and the slave as sub!
All your life you live by society rules and whats acceptable is termed by society as norm. If everyone walks naked then voyeurism will not exist since there will be nothing stimulating about public flashing and nudity. The humiliation fetish is no different!

It is always sweet when people pay you compliments and everyone loves to be accepted and liked this is a natural human behavior; and keeping that in mind while living the fetish life that is different from the norm can be sexually stimulating.

Being complimented and liked while treated like a dumb whore is sexually stimulating for me and lots of other women. I like to have big tits and dress slutty and have guys look at me in a sexual way and fuck me like a hooker while at the same time I am still attractive and cute to the men who like to use me sexually. Keep in mind this is just a sexual fantasy and I don't want to do that in real life; read on!

Guys who will encourage the sub and steer her to the whore lifestyle and do it so it becomes permanent and not a fling for the moment are the true Masters!

Being a Master who owns a sub or slave is a delicate art! You as a Master need to understand precisely what is it the sub likes to experience and her limits; you then must never cross those limits or try to push them or expand them, and that is key! Because when the sub is ready to expand her experience it will happen without your help!!! On the other hand, you will get your obedient sub satisfying your desires and letting you abuse her within her boundaries and the excitement becomes mutual.

Due to the unbelievable number of ignorant morons out there with their idiotic generalization of Master/Dom and sub/slave fetish; I have devised my own methods on the D/s relationship:
But, before we continue I need to tell anyone reading this document that I tried to find naturally born women being sub/slaves so I can learn about the fetish; however, I was not able to find such profiles. Therefore it is in my opinion that all anonymous profiles on the Internet I consider fake profiles and the majority of them are men/gays/bi-men/cross-dressers/transsexuals pretending to be naturally born women and portraying themselves as whores and willing to do anything the Master asks.
NOTE: I have nothing against gays, trans..etc. read here what I say
So back to my devised methods on Master / sub relationship:
  • A Master have to understand his potential sub specific requirement and needs and boundaries
  • A Master cannot expect the sub to drop her life and move to different location or do things outside her normal daily life just because the Master/Dom said so. This have to be done with in time to build trust
  • As a Master you need to consider financial impact on the sub so if you need her to do something that will cost then be prepared to shell out otherwise don't ask things you are not willing to pay for because the sub is not willing either!
  • Not every sub like to fuck a million guys. I for example like to be shown off to many people and displayed naked and in compromising poses ...etc but I will only sleep, fuck and suck my Master only and no one else (different girls do different things and that's just not me)
  • Everyone got different needs and requirement based on their current lifestyle. If you need to remain anonymous I understand but that's not what most subs looking for. I for example want to see who I am talking to if we were to engage in something more serious than just some Internet fling. A sub would want to see a verified picture and phone number they can call...etc. If you are married or can't show your face...etc then move along because that's not what most subs looking for unless its agreed by all within the relationship!

A proper Master online profile and what a sub looks for when looking for a Master/Dom:
    I am yet to find a proper Master/Dom online profile! Most online profiles of so called Masters/Doms weather be it on Fetlife or elsewhere on the internet, all are monotone and tells nothing about the person calling himself a Master/Dom who seeks total submission from a sub/slave. Let me explain!

    When I look for a Dom I look for someone who tells me about himself as a person living in the real world and not how he describe himself as a Dom. Everyone behind a keyboard can make himself look ideal! First I want to know who are you as a person and if that goes well then we can move along to who you are as a Dom! Still confused? I will explain further :)

    Here is what a sub like me and I presume any other woman who is serious about D/s (i.e. not fake) would look for:

    • Your age
    • Where do you live (city/state/country)
    • What do you do for a living
    • Where do you live? Apartment or house? Renting/mortgage or fully paid and owned? 
    • Do you have a car and valid drivers license or not
    • Do you have debts and how would you describe your credit
    • Are you married/divorced/separated and do you have children and if so are they living with you and how old..etc
    • Are you looking for a sub to move in with you or just remote relationship?

    The above points are example of the things a sub would like to know and by the above "core" information you will describe yourself as a person! Basically who are you as a man? You can also remain anonymous at this stage and that's fine!

    In my opinion if a Dom is serious about having a sub leave her existing life and give total submission to a Master/Dom then the sub would like to know if the Dom would be capable of handling the new responsibility and not just blabbing away like most wannabees out there!

    Do not confuse this with the sub wanting a husband! The D/s relationship is more demanding than most marriages and the above core information (at least from my perspective) is a must! It is only after passing this stage we can move along to who you are as a Dom and what I can offer as a sub!

    If you, a Master/Dom starts out in your online profile describing how you are as a Dom before providing core information about you as a person living in the real world is like feeling horny and want a quick fix. I am not surprised when I hear of Doms complaining about not wanting to waste their time with fake subs. I tell these guys fix your profile so you attract the real ones ;)

    A foot note if you will from what I have learned thus far:
    Most Masters/Doms out there who have a sub/slave were already in an existing relationships. What I mean is most Doms made their existing girlfriends or wives subs and slaves. I am yet to find a Master/Dom who says they are experienced and actually found subs/slaves who did not know them before and started the D/s relationship from the start and that their relationship lasted more than a year! Just keep this in mind if you are a sub new to the D/s like me and reading the profile of an experienced Master/Dom ;)
    Also, here are more info based on my experience thus far in the D/s relationships 


    The following readings are key to know if you wish to talk to me on a serious note:
    Lastly a sub lives by example, so if you find a naturally born women who is a sub/whore and you like your potential sub to do what she is doing I will recommend you find a verified profile!  Please read this to know what I consider verified naturally born women profiles so you don't send me what I consider a fake/anonymous profile. I love to expand my sexuality and feel free to talk to me about your experiences.

    I will keep expanding this document to include new things as I progress in my life with this new fetish ;)

    My views ;)

    I am putting this because I got asked a lot about my views on bi-sexual men, transgender and gays and I have nothing against them. I myself is bisexual and I have few gay friends. In my opinion gay men are a bit more sensitive and nicer than most guys. I do not have transgender friends but I use to know couple of transgender friends a while back when I use to live in Winnipeg and my general experience was OK. And off course I know lotsa bi chikas and I LUV dem all :)

    Now, the thing to note about gays, trans ...etc is that on the sexual level is not what i am seeking. SO if you are gay or trans..etc don't be afraid to talk to me (non sexual) because we can be friends ;)

    Hope this clears it for some of ya ^_^