Monday, 19 February 2018

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will!

Where does doubt come from? In the general sense of mind and thought. It's a feeling that nothing works out for a person and their life basically sucks the shit bag; no matter what they attempt to do. Often times erroneous comparisons are made with people they see in their life or online that achieved similar goals, but they feel they simply cannot measure up. They usually firmly believe and take to heart all the negativity from people around them. If you choose to pursue a goal and you end up facing obstacles self-doubt can manifest in your mind steering you away from achieving the intended goal. One must have incredible discipline and strong will to overcome obstacles. Live through the shit while you are on the way to the light. Reach greatness by not allowing the doubts to control your mind, perseverance is key to success.

Doubt essentially can be a real dream crusher and goal killer. Now, one might attribute life situations as a deterrent to accomplishing goals. Also, the thoughts develop in the mind, like “ oh, that's impossible I can't do it”. Keep in mind the achievement of making plausible dreams that more or less fit with one's cards of life a reality. Self doubt can be perceived as an excuse to remain in the rut or routine created by the individual, halting their progress in life.

Also, doubt should not be confused with failure the two are very dissimilar. Failure is generally trying to do something that may be new or familiar but, never achieving the desired or correct result. Doubt is thinking one is incapable of pursuing the task, due to a physical or mental challenge.

One must understand few basic facts: doubt will only become real if one projects and truly believes in it. Ultimately, it will lead to one's own demise or failure.

Dreams are just that unless the individual decides to make them reality. Remember, self doubt is nothing more than a belief that forms in the mind. It can only turn real if one focuses their energy.

Focus on a plausible dream make it a goal and pursue to the end without letting doubt take control and you lose out.

Saturday, 27 January 2018

Why I do what I do "Rebel"

Many people have posed me the question about why I chose the gothic alternative, rebel lifestyle, that I define as doing things outside society's expectations. Growing up in my generation it was expected that one completes education, chooses a field of profession, marries,  buys a house, then family enters the picture. Most of the people I knew followed that path to some extent. I however, think that there were forces at play guiding me to where I am today since it seems that it was most difficult for me to end up in the traditional family unit. Today, the way of life changed because of the internet. Many things that were taboo even to speak of in previous years are now socially acceptable. To elaborate on this point, it's as if the  invention of the internet suddenly turned taboo into norm. Now, if the internet never materialized would life stay the same? Would time, people and technology progress? I see my way of life as evolution, progress. Also, living out experiences as well.

CriesoftheGoth my personal website will be a detailed account of the various aspects of life I have experienced and still exploring. As the name suggests, various facets of my version of goth alternative will be portrayed through my site from fashion to recipes, various photography, book reads and hobbies.

I like to differentiate myself from the “sheeple”, those who follow society's rules of proper etiquette without knowing the real reason why. The buzz pitch phrases that are regurgitated to the point of nausea like: “everybody is doing it” or “ it's the right thing to do”.  “ This is sooo cool” . Much of this is literally being sold to people through famous media stars, who appear perfect with huge amounts of time and money. It's almost like  a subliminal message being transmitted to the general public minds,  if you want success  this is what to follow no matter what lifestyle you choose. 

I intend to show that it's possible to achieve goals and follow a lifestyle of your choice by positioning yourself with the right person and attitude. It is important also to see the larger picture of those who support you and not let those who disapprove derail you. One thing I noticed is the ones who make the most noise when against something or someone are in reality the lesser in numbers, but people don't notice this fact, they merely focus their attention to the voices they hear.  I prefer to concentrate on the positive supporters who when seeing the bigger picture, are more numerous in numbers. That in my opinion is the key to achieving your set goals in life.

In conclusion, anything can be possible with the right mindset and belief.